✨Epiphany✨ about external validation

During yoga, I just had an epiphany about why, as a society, we seek external validation. If, in our early years, we didn't have a figure who gave us the acceptance of our authentic selves, we unconsciously end up seeking confirmation from the outside that it is safe to be who we are.

Our society molds children to behave and adapt in order to be pleasant and navigate the world. So unless, at some point, we have a safe space to be who we truly are, we constantly adapt and seek outside confirmation that it is indeed safe to show all parts of ourselves.

Heck! This is also why it's so convenient for the economy that people feel insecure and believe they need permission to be themselves because promoting not enoughness is great for business.

Also benefits businesses and a system that makes us believe our worth must be earned by proving ourselves by working harder, giving more. It is designed to keep us compliant and disconnected from our own intuition.

Sir Ken Robinson (may he rest in peace) gave an incredible talk that led me to buy his book about how schools kill creativity. I think the limitations imposed by our current educational system, combined with the fact that many unhealed adults become parents, directly reflect how the system perpetuates a sense of castration around self-expression. It conditions us to rely on external validation while simultaneously isolating us with fears of insufficiency and rejection.

I never thought a handstand could make me see this so clearly, but then again, yoga is all about unblocking parts of ourselves and accepting that we are enough just as we are.

So once again, if no one told you this today, let me remind you: you are enough, and showing up as your true self is a gift to humanity.

Have an amazing rest of the week!

Francisca